Life Is Short. Love Your Spouse

Here are excerpts from an article I read this week. It shows us that God’s word is so counter-cultural to our society, and it is only getting more so:

As the Ashley Madison leak continues playing out in the media, we’re reminded so clearly about the lies of sin. The Ashley Madison Company, a cheating site that is (sadly) very successful, has the following motto: “Life is short. Have an affair.” The lies don’t come much more blatantly than this.

But why are so many falling for it? Why is it that Ashley Madison can boast of over 37 million users — with professing Christians among them? It’s because sin is just that enticing. Sin clouds our vision, distorts our perception of reality, and if we haven’t fed our souls on specific truths to chase away the lies, one day we may find ourselves buying into the same lies or simpler ones.

What, then, are some strategies we can use to combat such temptations?


  1. Be guarded in your relationships with members of the opposite sex.
  2. Be mindful of the influences you allow to shape your thinking.
  3. Cling to God’s promises. Yes, there are scary warnings in the Bible, and also glorious promises. For instance, Jesus promises in the Beatitudes, “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God” (Matthew 5:8).
  4. Talk, talk, talk with your spouse.
  5. Date your spouse. To foster those quality conversations, keep dating. Especially with kids, it’s essential to set aside time for undistracted, face-to-face interaction. Try new experiences. Make new memories. Laugh a lot together.
  6. Study and review God’s beautiful design for marriage. I believe the most powerful step Christians can take to strengthen their marriages is to deepen their understanding of what God intends marriage to be, and what he intends marriage to point to. The intimate union of a husband and wife in marriage was created by God to be a picture of Christ’s relationship to the church (Eph. 5:32).

In light of this truth, and in the midst of a culture that tragically diminishes the sacredness of marriage, Christians should yearn for their marriages to be a compelling gospel parable.

Don’t fall for the Ashley Madison lie, or others like it. Yes, life is short; don’t waste it on short-lived highs that will leave you lower than you began.

Life is short so love your spouse!

Chris Forder


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September 13, 2020